Verbal Karate and Conflict Resolution

How to deal with difficult people, bullies and friendship drama

Girl Scouts! email [email protected] for your discount code

More than one out of every four students (27.8) report being bullied during the school year (National Center for Educational Statistics, 2015).

“You’re not my friend anymore!” “You’re a baby!” “You can’t play in our game because you’re not good!” These are the common “mean behaviors” or bullying behaviors most elementary school age children deal with on a daily basis; even from a friend.


Bullying or any mean behavior, comes in two forms; relational & physical. Relational behaviors are more common and include; teasing, name calling, picking on, laughing at, excluding, bossiness, manipulation, and gossip. Many of these behaviors are seen in situations involving “friendship drama.” Physical aggression involves pushing, hitting, stealing from, cutting in line, biting etc. Like any lesson, verbal defense can be reinforced through parent-child communication and role playing.

Definition of Bullying:

This Course will teach you how to "Role-play" the proper responses with your children when confronted with mean comments and physical aggressiveness.

You will receive:

  1. Work sheet for you and your child to complete as you work through the video tutorials.
  2. Tutorial videos demonstrating the proper responses to various kinds of mean-behaviors, friendship drama and how to resolve conflict.
  3. Review sheets with additional resources and recommended books.
  4. 15 minute Zoom call ( can also be a group/troop conference) with a Certified and Licensed instructor to: coach your child, or a group/troop, or to answer questions.
  5. Certificate of completion for your child or a "patch" for Girl Scouts, Cub Scouts, Boy Scouts, American Heritage Girls, YMCA Guides and Indian Princesses.

Plus you will learn:

1. What bullying is; not all mean behavior is bullying behavior.

2. How to teach your child to look confident, not sassy. Body language is 93% of communication.

3. How to help your child replace "sassiness" with powerful responses.

4.Setting boundaries with inappropriate and/or aggressive people.

5. Coaching your child to deal with excluding and Yo-Yo friends

6. How to be a W.I.N.N.E.R. with our six "Power Protector" strategies.

7. Why they should think like a Chihuahua if it gets physical.

8. Reporting vs. tattle-telling. When parents should get involved and how.

Thank you so much for putting this on. Keira loved it! We went on a walk afterwards and she couldn’t stop talking about it. She also called her Grandma to share. :) You’ve made a huge difference in her self confidence. She told me I how not to be sassy. 😂

Jennifer- Girl Scout Mom

"Wow! This course exceeded my expectations! I loved taking the course with my child online, as I learned how to coach my child through friendship drama! Thank you for the great Zoom meeting, it was amazing how you could keep the group engaged! "

- Selena, Mom and Teacher

"What an amazing job you are doing with the girls ❤️! I loved every minute of it."

Rakhi- Girl Scout Leader

Your Instructor

Tracie Arlington
Tracie Arlington

In 2003 Tracie Arlington, a mother of two and a black belt in Taekwondo realized there was a need for self defense training for women and children that were not in the martial arts. So PlayItSafeDefense was born!

Tracie is a strong advocate of child safety and self defense training. As a child empowerment coach, Tracie has been called the "Kid Whisperer." Her specialty is friendship drama and conflict resolution.

She has been teaching self defense since 1998, and is a certified national instructor for the Women’s Self Defense Institute.Tracie has taught hundreds of thousands of children, teens and women through Girl Scout and Boy Scout troops, teen groups, colleges, high schools, local businesses, school assemblies and after-school programs. She has been a guest on Dr. Phil, The DOCTORS TV, and the Dr. Phil in the Blanks podcast. Play It Defense is looking for Licensees outside of San Diego County:

Frequently Asked Questions

When does the course start and finish?
The course starts now and never ends! It is a completely self-paced online course - you decide when you start and when you finish.
How long do I have access to the course?
How does lifetime access sound? After enrolling, you have unlimited access to this course for as long as you like - across any and all devices you own.
What if I am unhappy with the course?
We would never want you to be unhappy! If you are unsatisfied with your purchase, contact us in the first 14 days and we will give you a full refund.

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